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Review: 'Parenthood' - 'One More Weekend With You': Gone to pot

Is the cancer storyline overwhelming the rest of the show?

<p>Julia and Joel on "Parenthood."</p>

Julia and Joel on "Parenthood."

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A review of last night's "Parenthood" coming up just as soon as I have piggy bank money for a taxi...

For most of this season, we've seen the benefits of "Parenthood" upping the stakes with the Kristina cancer storyline, as it's rippled through the rest of the Braverman world and elevated the series' game as a whole. "One More Weekend With You," on the other hand, was an illustration of the pitfalls of this approach.

The cancer storyline has been going on so long now that, as happens in extended families, the lives of everyone outside Adam and Kristina's house have stopped being entirely about that. This was a run of fairly traditional "Parenthood" stories, many of them picking up threads from earlier in the season, like Drew's uneasiness around Mr. Cyr (and vice versa) and Sydney's resentment of the amount of time her parents are spending on Victor. And in a vacuum, all those stories were fine.(*) I may disagree with the choices the characters make, like Sarah ratting out Mark, but only because I would try not to do it that way; I believe that this is how they would respond in these situations, for good or for ill.

(*) Well, I still consider Crosby and Jasmine's dynamic to be kind of unpleasant, but that's largely a lost cause, and I have to hope for episodes where Crosby's otherwise occupied at the Luncheonette or with other Bravermans.
 
The problem is that because things are so very serious for Kristina and Adam — and also for Amber and Ryan, in a storyline that so far has been maybe my favorite thing that Mae Whitman has ever gotten to do, here or elsewhere (yes, including eating a mayonegg) — I found myself getting more impatient than usual when we cycled around the dial to check in on what was happening elsewhere in the family. Sydney's tantrum felt natural (and, as Joel noted, fairly justified) and like something the show was going to have to do sooner or later as part of the Victor story, but I spent most of those scenes wishing we were back in the car with Amber and Ryan, or even in the utter, stifling chaos of Adam's house on a Murphy's Law kind of weekend. We'll see how things balance going forward, and it's entirely possible that within a week or two, Crosby will suddenly be at the center of my favorite part of the show, or the inevitable Mark/Sarah/Hank triangle (was nice to have Ray Romano back, even for a brief scene), but for now the show feels very heavily weighted towards these two areas for me.

And a few thoughts on each of those. First, I'm impressed that they never try to sugarcoat what life with Max is like. There are definitely moments of sweetness and/or self-awareness, but a lot of the time, Max's most Asperger-y traits are going to assert themselves and he's going to be an enormous pain in the rear to deal with, whether you're his father or his best/only friend, and this story seemed a good time to let all of those flare up at once with no explanation beyond Max's basic nature. There wasn't a twist at the end where he cried in his father's arms and admitted that he was acting out because he was worried about Kristina; he was just being Max.

Second, it's remarkable how far network TV has come in terms of something like pot use. Judd Apatow used to claim that "Freaks and Geeks" essentially got canceled (it was always going to be canceled, but maybe not this soon) because of the episode "Chokin' and Tokin'," where Nick tries to go without weed for a day while Lindsay has a bad reaction to his stash. It's an episode that couldn't be more blatant in suggesting that you're better off not smoking pot, yet Apatow insists the very explicitness of it was enough to outrage several NBC executives. Jump ahead a dozen years, and we've had episodes where the Bravermans casually toke up outside a school, and here where Crosby's secret stash is Kristina's medicinal salvation.

And third, let me again sing the praises of Mae Whitman — and, for that matter, Matt Lauria. This is such a fragile relationship, Whitman is doing an amazing job of playing Amber's simultaneous feelings of love for this guy and fear that something could go wrong at any moment and she won't have the first clue of what to do about it. And Lauria's been outstanding at playing a character dealing with emotional problems that only occasionally bubble up to the surface the way they did in that parking lot fight. For a relationship that started as a fairly minor thing a few weeks ago, it's quickly become one of the very best parts of "Parenthood." 

What did everybody else think?

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Alan Sepinwall has been reviewing television since the mid-'90s, first for Tony Soprano's hometown paper, The Star-Ledger, and now for HitFix. His new book, "The Revolution Was Televised," about the last 15 years of TV drama, is for sale at Amazon. He can be reached at sepinwall@hitfix.com

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    Rev. Slappy

    Jason Bateman's look of horror upon hearing about the mayonegg is still one of the funniest things in the history of the world.

    November 21, 2012 at 11:05AM EST Reply to Comment
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      penises and ballsacks And poop.

      December 2, 2012 at 6:39PM EST
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    Jeff

    First, any episode that does not feature Craig T. Nelson is always going to be a step down.

    Anyway, I'm actually a fan of spending time away from Adam and Kristina. They are a giant rain cloud on this show, and while they are talented actors and the emotional center, I vastly prefer the lighthearted adventures of Crosby and Joel, but maybe that's because those are the two characters I find myself relating to most of all. I really wish Joel got more to do other than dealing with kids and being a sounding board for Julia, as he's easily one of my favorite characters.

    November 21, 2012 at 11:20AM EST Reply to Comment
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      giant ballsacks in my penis And anus.

      December 2, 2012 at 6:42PM EST
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    Julie

    I'm not a regular Parenthood viewer but tuned in last night. I was totally confused as the stage directions were being narrated throughout the show. Is this a regular thing?

    November 21, 2012 at 11:24AM EST Reply to Comment
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      sepinwall This has come up a bit on several reviews of several shows lately. For some reason, your local affiliate's feed was playing the audio track that's there for people with vision problems.

      November 21, 2012 at 11:26AM EST
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      SlackerInc How bizarre this must have been for you to think this was a normal feature of the show! LMAO

      November 23, 2012 at 6:07AM EST
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      Julie Thanks for clearing that up! That's what I get for heading to my parents' place early for Thanksgiving, their guest room TV has a mind of its own.

      November 26, 2012 at 2:41PM EST
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    Jana

    I´m so fed up with Kristina and her family that I can´t even feel sorry for her anymore. The show has became Kristina show this season, with the other characters chiming in once in a while.
    Btw. Sarah didn´t rattled Mark, he confessed himself. It was weird stupid plot, as most plots that Sarah´s been getting lately. And speaking of which, they have Lauren Graham in the cast and can´t find material for her. I´m major fan and I thought it was impossible to not like character that Lauren plays but they managed to do it. It makes me sad, but I don´t enjoy this season that much. Lauren Graham was on Go On yesterday and got more scenes in 20min long show than she ever did on Parenthood. Never thought I would say it but I won´t be upset if the show ends this year.
    The only plot I enjoyed in this episode was Sydney leaving with her suitcase. I did that once and my parents are still laughing about it.

    November 21, 2012 at 11:28AM EST Reply to Comment
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      sepinwall Mark confessed because Sarah was making it incredibly obvious that she knew, and Mark could see how the next few minutes of the conversation would go. Better to get out in front of it.

      November 21, 2012 at 11:37AM EST
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      SlackerInc I disagree strongly with Jana's take on the show in general, but I agree with her and disagree with you on this one point, Alan. I think all the things Sarah said were completely reasonable even if she were in the dark about the sex thing; and that his confession was premature.

      November 23, 2012 at 6:10AM EST
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    ChampSkins

    Definitely the season's weakest episode to date... doesn't mean it was a bad episode though. Liked Sydney's storyline, because she really is a brat and it was about time she blew up because of the lack of attention. It has to be difficult for her to understand why all of a sudden some kid thats older than her is now getting all of the attention.

    Also, where the heck was Jabbar?

    November 21, 2012 at 11:37AM EST Reply to Comment
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      Penny Lane I know what you mean. I'm not sure if it was the worst, but it wasn't the best, either. Next week's episode (based on the promo) looks REALLY good!!

      Personally I'm not a big fan of storylines involving Jabbar/Jasmine (I'm not so interested in Joel/Julia & their kids, either), so I was fine with it.

      November 21, 2012 at 12:03PM EST
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      rcade When has Sydney been a brat? Since Victor arrived she's barely been shown. I think her meltdown over her parents putting their entire focus on Victor was long overdue. And Joel and Julia looked dumb for letting it get to that point.

      (As an aside, bringing a boy into your home with a difficult background who is around the same age as your daughter always seemed utterly crazy to me.)

      November 21, 2012 at 2:46PM EST
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      Beekayz The fact that this is arguably the weakest episode of the season so far, yet wasn't a bad episode at all, is testament to the strength of this season as a whole.
      This is the first time 'Parenthood' has been priority watching and one of the few shows I look forward to all week.

      November 21, 2012 at 8:19PM EST
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      SlackerInc I slightly disagree with you all but only slightly because it sounds like we all enjoy the show generally. I thought this was a strong episode, and that a couple weeks back was the only subpar episode of the season.

      Sydney is adorable: just slightly spoiled, but only slightly. And she does have a good point but was hilarious and heart-melting in the way she complained about it. I chuckled too when she was skating and said "yeah, I get it" but then "nope" to the idea of bringing Victor home a treat!

      November 23, 2012 at 6:13AM EST
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    dylanfan

    Was it just me or wasn't that fight in the parking lot overly brutal for no follow-up on how badly Ryan hurt that guy?

    November 21, 2012 at 11:44AM EST Reply to Comment
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      Penny Lane It was pretty brutal. I guess we were just supposed to assume that Ryan banged the guy up pretty badly & he'll have some sores & bruises. The whole thing definitely scared Amber-she's not used to seeing that side of Ryan.

      November 21, 2012 at 12:05PM EST
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    Torin

    Alan, I was really hoping that your open would be, "...just as soon as I figure out the difference between a thong and a g-string."

    November 21, 2012 at 11:45AM EST Reply to Comment
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      Ana LOL - also by Adam's weird fascination at seeing these items, we are to assume Kristina wears cotton grandma briefs.

      November 21, 2012 at 1:27PM EST
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      SlackerInc Although it set up a pretty funny scene when Jasmine came in the room, it was wildly inappropriate for Adam to be doing that.

      November 23, 2012 at 6:13AM EST
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    leemats

    The Sydney story was long overdue. Similar to how we are eventually going to have to meet Kristina's parents (and siblings if she has any). If we don't, then her family is more screwed up than we thought.

    November 21, 2012 at 12:02PM EST Reply to Comment
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    kronicfatigue

    Kristina wants a dog that nobody can take care of. They get a dog. She refuses to say "i can't" to a houseguest, they get one that nobody can take care of. Did she have more than a 50% say in the decision to have another kid? I can't remember.

    November 21, 2012 at 12:03PM EST Reply to Comment
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      Kelly Yes she seems to be very self-sabotaging. I know that the past few shows have been dealing with her cancer and tears are expected, but I was hard-pressed last night to remember one episode of the entire series in which she didn't tear up. Agreeing to look after a special needs child for the weekend, what, three days after chemo, is fundamentally insane. She's always had somewhat of a martyr complex, but she doesn't seem to be learning and growing beyond it.

      November 21, 2012 at 12:51PM EST
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      Jamie I think the general resolution of those actions came at the end of the episode when she tells Adam about how she somehow thought that cancer and chemo wouldn't effect her and that she could power through it. It's supposed to be an awakening for her. This cancer thing is real.

      November 21, 2012 at 11:42PM EST
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      birkoff1 The baby was an accident. As for the main part, that's why the plot was so effective. She want's to do everything, even in her weakened state, and was given a hard lesson to learn.

      November 24, 2012 at 11:20AM EST
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    Meg

    Is anyone with more experience with Aspergers kids able to clarify whether Max's horrid behavior is realistic? Because to me, not only is Max this most horrible and unlikeable character on the show (I don't really see these "sweet moment" Alan mentions), but his parents look bad too for not even trying to help him with his disorder. I enjoyed his scenes with Gabby and Amber and would like to see more of him making an effort to overcome his tendencies. He even told a BABY to "shut up" last night so he could play his video games. Honestly.

    And even if this depiction is realistic, does anyone else join me in disagreeing with Alan that this is a good thing?

    Showing Max having difficulty empathizing with Kristina's situation due to his disorder would be an interesting story. Showing Max being an abusive, self-centered little troll who is rude and disgusting to everyone around him is not. They were laying it on thick with him pillaging Jasmine's hors d'oevres with his bare hands and feeding them to the dog made my husband ask if the show was deliberately trying to make people think that people with Aspergers are uniformly terrible.

    November 21, 2012 at 12:20PM EST Reply to Comment
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      JB I have Aspergers and I was NOTHING like this as a child... but there's also different levels of severity.

      November 21, 2012 at 12:33PM EST
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      Meg Good point. Which is why, if Max's is more severe (though it is not portrayed that way since he was deemed able to attend a mainstream school), I would really be interested in seeing more stories of him working with aides or his parents to overcome his struggles. I know my language in my comment was harsh, but I was honestly taken aback last night at the character's behavior, and I wish it would be addressed more beyond Adam yelling at him and Max flatly refusing to do as he's told.

      November 21, 2012 at 12:43PM EST
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      west coast ram Meg, I'm with you a 100%. The show started out with Max just being a little excentrict (wearing his pirate pajamas everywhere) but now he has turned into a totally unlikable character in which it is easy to also dislike his parents for their behavior. Like you I don't see enough quality moments of Max to not want to fast forward anytime he is on the screen.

      November 21, 2012 at 1:55PM EST
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      kronicfatigue I agree w/ Meg. The only reason I didn't write an equally harsh critique on Max's behavior was b/c I was already complaining about Kristina, and didn't want to pile on. Something is fundamentally wrong when Max can yell at his baby sister to shut up without some kind of consequence. Has Mrs. Jeter even been replaced, or is Max just going to school and getting away with murder in the house?

      November 21, 2012 at 2:14PM EST
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      toronto My husband and I groan every time Max is on the screen. We've said several times how nice it would be if they sent him away somewhere and we never saw his character again.
      Having said that, this used to be one of my favorite shows and now it's just so depressing. EVERY story this week was miserable. Why do they think this is entertainment?

      November 22, 2012 at 2:14PM EST
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      HR My friends actually have a son with Asperger's and while his is not as severe as Max's, every time Max appear on the screen, I am reminded of this son. The mannerisms, expressions, and conversation are really similar. I find all of Max's scenes extremely realistic actually

      November 22, 2012 at 3:35PM EST
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      SlackerInc Meg, I am totally with you. You think your comment was harsh, but I snarked to my wife that "maybe euthanasia would be an option for the Bravermans to explore". "Horrid" is a great word for him.

      Apparently his behaviour can be realistic to some degree for some people with Asperger's (the show's creator has a son with the condition, and btw a wife who went through breast cancer). But my wife, who is a special ed teacher and deals with such kids in her job, said that where they go astray is not ever showing him seeming to have fun or show joy, even when he's playing video games.

      She also agreed that it was inconsistent for him on the one hand to object to the germy "ick" factor of his mother lying next to the toilet, but on the other hand not to see why it would be wrong to deal with the hors d'oeuvres the way he does.

      All that said, it may be that his portrayal is at least somewhat realistic just because his parents don't discipline him enough. I'm far from an old school, harsh disciplinarian, believe me (I have four kids and have never spanked any of them once); but I do believe even a special needs child needs to be disciplined and lose privileges and so on if he acts like Max. The kid is smart enough to learn how to be less of an abrasive jerk who weighs down the whole family, even if he will never be warm and cuddly.

      But despite my enragement at Max, I do love this show greatly!

      November 23, 2012 at 6:21AM EST
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      oliver Is there a possibility that Max's Asperger's has worsened due to both his big sister leaving for college and the addition of the baby to the family? Isn't one of the displayed traits of the disorder not reacting well to change? Does the beginning of adolescence and hormonal changes also come into play with this condition? Perhaps Max's inconsiderate behavior is legitimate.

      November 23, 2012 at 4:23PM EST
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      SlackerInc Good point, Oliver.

      November 23, 2012 at 6:23PM EST
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      birkoff1 I don't think the portrayal of Max is inappropriate. It's tiring for an audience, but that's the nature of someone with a more severe case. The disorder can be characterized by intense self-preoccupation, lack of empathy, and ritualistic and obsessive behavior. Frankly, I think most twelve year old boys playing video games tend to be oblivious to what's going on around them, so I don't see this as being the most obvious point on which to complain.

      November 24, 2012 at 11:26AM EST
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      Bryarn I used to tutor a boy who was Max's age and has Asperger's. If anything, Max's behavior may be on the calm side of a hormonal boy with his condition. It's almost the Breaking Bad of characters. Let's put a pre-teen boy with Asperger's in a home where his older sister has just left, he enters a new school, his baby sister enters the world, and his mother (who is Queen of Max's Calendar) gets cancer.

      I imagine that, all things considered, any pleasant screen time for Max would seem unrealistic. If we placed the boy I tutored into that situation, he would be throwing chairs and punching strangers whenever the TV was turned off. I'm not exaggerating here.

      November 27, 2012 at 1:54AM EST
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      toronto Regardless of what level of asperger's Max has or is portraying, it's really annoying and not what I would call ENTERTAINMENT

      November 27, 2012 at 10:36AM EST
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    amg

    I thought last night's episode was especially impressive, and that's saying a lot for Parenthood. That they did not hold back at all in showing the raw messiness of being truly sick, at the same time as showing the rest of the world going on as usual oblivious to it (Max in particular) was extraordinarily well done. It was frankly a horrifying portrait for me of whats to come as I'm about to watch my father go through it (Adam's line last week that the women who've been through chemo "are like ghosts" was incredibly powerful as well.)

    That they can show all this without over-dramatizing it really speaks to the care and thought with which the show is put together. In real life, kids and friends and co-workers and the rest of the world don't stop being focussed primarily on their own needs and daily exigencies, no matter what happens in other's lives, after a while. And people's compassion can only be sustained so long without "fatiguing." And what you do then is the real challenge. Hard as it is to watch, I'm glad the show is tackling it head on.

    Basically, I think we forget (especially on TV) that even during the moments of greatest drama, babies scream for more food, kids misbehave and argue over petty things, and dogs pee on the carpet. Life doesn't stop for tragedy the way cameras and soundtracks do, and tragedies don't always lead to magic heartwarming moments and lessons learned. But thank god for Crosby's stash to take the edge off.

    November 21, 2012 at 1:28PM EST Reply to Comment
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      SlackerInc Great post, agree with everything you said including the last part. This show is not a comedy or even much of a dramedy usually, but I laughed uproariously when Adam asked Kristina if the weed was helping, and she answered in sort of a low stoner voice, "oh yeah". So perfect, from Kristina of all people!

      November 23, 2012 at 6:24AM EST
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    ScarletKnight

    Did anyone else notice that they Hank was wondering if he got paid for the Rosenthal bar mitzvah?

    For those who don't get the reference, Philip Rosenthal was the creator of Everybody Loves Raymond.

    November 21, 2012 at 2:38PM EST Reply to Comment
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    Breakfast

    The Kristina and Amber/Ryan scenes were the best part of the episode by far. When the cancer story line hit, I really felt that it would be overbearing, but they have been hitting all the right notes with that story line. I absolutely felt Adam's panic and Kristina's pain.

    Mae is absolutely my favorite part of the show, and always has been. Her character has developed so much over the seasons, and watching Mae with Matt is astonishing at times. Those final images of the two of them in the ocean were the best shots of the series (though the episode was not the best- but it was good.)

    I don't know if there is anywhere else the writers can take Jasmine and Crosby.

    November 21, 2012 at 5:40PM EST Reply to Comment
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      HR I wonder if I am the only one who doesn't feel invested in Amber and Ryan's relationship? It went way too fast and feels really unnatural to me. The actors are great, though.

      I agree with you about Jasmine and Crosby. I what other storylines could come up that don't seem repetitive.

      November 22, 2012 at 3:38PM EST
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    Alan

    I just happened to stumble accross this blog because of the headline. Almost all the reviews seem to be written by people who care about the show, I do too. As the episode ended last night I looked at my wife and said "that was weird". We have been watching the show since inception and there seemed to be a formula that was working whereby one week all the cast were beset by problems interlaced with comic relief and the following week most of the problems were resolved even though there have been multiple ongoing storylines. Even if a kid has auspergers it seems it would be detrimental to allow them to just act out of control and neglectful toward his friend and dog. For those that were asking, there were several storylines regarding Max receiving treatment as well as in-house therapists (including the beautiful Minka Kelly-didn't end well when she and Adam were getting too close to the edge). Obviously there would be an element of chaos but I think it went too far. As to the ongoing cancer story, I agree with those that feel it's gone on too long. I keep looking at my wife and saying that I hope they don't plan on taking this to the obvious potential outcome. Having Kristina die would put a pall over the show which intended to be a well written, well cast "Dramedy" and turn it into a soap opera.
    I also agree that Lauren Graham, who has incredible comic timing, is not being used in a way that makes sense for her nor is she getting the face time that could create some of that comic relief that is a hallmark of the show. Lets hope the writer/directos/ producers get back on track making this the show that made us watch in the first place.

    November 21, 2012 at 6:34PM EST Reply to Comment
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    Ana

    This may have a very obvious answer (and I'm somehow missing it), but to what is the title of the episode "One More Weekend With You" referring?

    November 21, 2012 at 6:47PM EST Reply to Comment
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      dylanfan My first thought when I saw it was Bob's song from "New Morning," but maybe that is too obscure and there is a more obvious answer.

      November 21, 2012 at 9:09PM EST
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    Harry

    Does anyone know what breed of dog was in the Nov 21 show?

    November 22, 2012 at 9:18AM EST Reply to Comment
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    Harry

    Does anyone know the breed of dog in the Nov 21 episode?

    November 22, 2012 at 9:20AM EST Reply to Comment
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      toronto Shih Tzu

      November 22, 2012 at 2:19PM EST
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    Opie

    I don't think Sarah has made a single decision either as a mother or with regards to one of her boyfriends that I haven't found completely infuriating. Her teenage son whom she knows feels very very uncomfortable living with her boyfriend, for obvious and good reasons, finally sot of confides in him and has a chance to forge a bit of a bond, and then this selfish woman along and ruins it all because she needs to know everything about his life. Christ almighty.

    I too would like to see more of Joel.

    November 22, 2012 at 10:12AM EST Reply to Comment
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      Maria I have always been a fan of Crosby and Jasmine. They have a beautiful family. They have been getting great 1 epi s/ls this season about the first year of marriage. Their scenes provide lighter fare which contributes to the show's balance. I love them.

      November 23, 2012 at 8:20AM EST
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      birkoff1 They're engaged. He's leaving for college in 18 months. He can suck it up.

      November 24, 2012 at 11:30AM EST
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    ghoti

    What I hate about Julia and Joel is they never get out ahead of anything. They just move about oblivious to the world until one of their kids reacts strongly to their lack of parenting and then they attempt to patch the damage.

    Sidney has always been a reasonable, selfless girl who always thinks of others first. That's why it's so shocking that she didn't immediately realize on her own that Victor is in a situation that requires a lot of attention from his parents and she may have to take a back seat for a while. There is no way Julia and Joel could have known that she would react like a spoiled, entitled brat after months of ignoring her, since that was obviously justified given the circumstances.

    November 23, 2012 at 3:49PM EST Reply to Comment
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      Kris I don't know what show you've been watching, but Sydney has always been a spoiled brat. Even if she wasn't, she could hardly be described as "selfless"!

      November 25, 2012 at 8:21AM EST

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